I remembered the sashiko

It’s made all the difference to the skirt. Just enough contrast and detail for my liking. Leeetle bit close to that hemline but I’m not picking it out now.

Various dramas continue to unfold. I joked to the Bloke the other night that most mums scrapbook different sorts of firsts and memories for their kids. I’m starting up a folder with My First Mental Health Plan, My First Mood Chart and My First Anxiety Workbook. I’ve got to say, there’s not nearly the same number of photos with this kind of folder.

There are appointments scrawled all over the calendar for the next two months and I swear I am this close to giving everyone their own ink colour. The Bloke thought that then you could go with varying shades, according to ailment: GP, BP, hamburgers, optometry, occ therapy…but we don’t have that many pens to choose from.

We’ve not yet revealed to the lad the full extent of what’s happening; more precisely we’ve stuck with dyslexia and anxiety because we’re quite sure of those and the treatment strategies and teaching remediation start immediately. The dyslexia label at the moment is covering all of the processing disorders that are commonly associated with Asperger’s – difficulty writing (apraxia), dyscalculia (to maths what dyslexia is to spelling/reading), working memory problems, and difficulties prioritising and organising work. The anxiety workbook will help deal with some of the consequences of mood instability and we’re really working on giving him a stable routine at home and school. Once the diagnostic process is completed with the child psychiatrist, then we can handle full disclosure and any further treatment like therapy or medication.

And with all of that, we’re trying to be as open and gentle about it as we can be with the kids. The lad declared quite matter of factly last night that he didn’t want to have dyslexia. Fair enough, we reckon. So we had a bit of a chat about it, which appointments are happening in the next week or so and why, and assuring the lass that it wasn’t contagious. That concept was a little tricky to get across. We said that you’re born with it but from a seven year old’s point of view that doesn’t automatically make it not contagious. In what I thought was a bit of a brilliant, on the spot analogy, I said it was like being born a boy or a girl: you can’t change from a girl to a boy just because your older brother touches you.

Yes, a vigorous game of tag over the dinner table ensued just to see if it might work.

6 Comments

  1. suse said,

    March 10, 2010 at 4:59 pm

    I have nothing of any use to say here, except brilliant embroidery and do you mind if I borrow it?

  2. frog said,

    March 10, 2010 at 9:05 pm

    Most certainly you may borrow it. It’s such a decorative and unfussy type of embroidery. I’m thinking of a blouse in a lightweight cotton with other pieces stitched on using sashiko. We shall see what comes of it.

  3. kate said,

    March 10, 2010 at 9:30 pm

    The Bloke would suggest something like that, and then forget which shade is for each thing. I can imagine the code-cracking chart you’d need taking up half the kitchen wall.

    Do you still have photos of Baby’s First Demo? And Baby’s First Icecream? We have Baby’s First Burger. I didn’t take photos of Baby’s First Ear Infection. I should have, given how many of them he’s had. I would dispute that “most mothers” have a scrap book. I know lots of mothers who have some sort of system they don’t actually follow, I know I am a “chuck it in a box person”, so I bought a nice box. It seemed better than failing at a book.

  4. kate said,

    March 13, 2010 at 9:55 pm

    Is it just me, or is dyscalculia a particularly tricky word? I keep trying to pronounce it in my head and it’s not working.

    • froginthepond said,

      March 13, 2010 at 10:24 pm

      It’s not just you. It ends up sounding like count dracula when I say it. Spelling it is worse because it’s difficult to know how to stop.

      • innercitygarden said,

        March 16, 2010 at 9:34 pm

        I just think it’s cruel to have such a tricky word.

        Not as cruel as all the statistics they had on the dyscalculia site though. That was mean. I just skimmed over them…


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